Parent! Do not hit the children like a drum!

Everyday sifting. My task lists often have their task lists - and endlessly. The word rush and the desire to be a "perfect parent" sometimes lead us into dangerous areas of being "mega grown up and professional" in relation to our kids. When we return from work, we do not devote even 3 minutes to share our emotions - we only start a list of tasks - what we have done, what we set, etc. And what if someone "specifically" welcomed us at work, at friends or in a café?

Yesterday's scene from home "quiet":

Brick,* she opened the door to the house. I glanced at my watch, 3 minutes after 15:30. You can see that another attempt to break the speed record of the Wielkopolskie voivodship in built-up areas was a success. The veneer has arrived home.

She dropped the usual "Hey, I'm here!" And boldly headed for TEBETE's room

She admits, the courage of Licówka impressed me. Enter this room, without a protective suit, droplets for calming or at least "hundreds" for external and internal disinfection, it is madness or courage in the purest form.

TEBETE room (an abbreviation for the Toxic Environment of Basic Evolution of Timothy and Eva), a real-name-not-be-pronounce, peace-free death in torment, and with incredible happiness, long-term hospitalization on the NFZ, for anyone who would dare to enter it without protection with even a peeled skin at the nail. Peace, which was already 11 years ago, proof of the truth of Schrödinger's theory - that is, the room of Ewczan and Tymczan.

The veneer has opened the door of the room (normally it does not open, because it is blocked by a handy Ewczan glitter store, closed in various boxes and backpacks - it is ready in the event of a sudden evacuation). She approached our Experimental Specimen No. 2 (Ewaczan is younger to Tymczan) and asked the question many times on one breath:

- Why are you still in pajamas ?, all day sitting in front of the computer ?, and you did something else?

Truly pure courage or the latter ...

Ewczan, calmly practiced, pulled off the headphones and responded with a short cold "no". By the way, clenching your lips, so that they resembled two horizontal lines drawn with a pink 0.1 mm thin pen. It was so cold that in spite of June I heard the roar of the wind in my head screaming: winter is coming!

And then it dawned on me ...

... good without exaggeration, did not dazzle, and I felt that a small thought-idea born out of PRL is born:

"Parent! Do not fight your children with your word like a drum! "

Because, although the questions of Licówka were of the following type: just-educative-grown-up, whoever likes, when on a good day, he gets the text from the "leaf": Zadanko has it worked out? Why did he come? "

Plakat Rodzicu! Nie wal w dzieci swoim słowem jak w bęben

Such pounding in the drum is asking for trouble. Meanwhile, little trouble, but how trouble will grow up, according to the law of mass growth with age, big trouble. If we get used to our little trouble that they are always attacked, how will they grow up reflexively, every time we talk to them.

Imagine this situation.

As all normal, decent parents, we will want to make such a copy a surprise, so as not to look far: give an 18-year-old lambo (short for lamborghini, but supposedly more youthful, as my friend said, who already has two lambos in the barn - tractors but always) in red. We bought what's needed, we packed the keys in a box and fly to our baby, give her a gift. We already imagine how we will look at the beach in Mielno, proudly parading in a yellow T-shirt with the inscription "Best parents EVER!" and here ... d ** a.

Our 18-year-old ungrateful, because otherwise you or him can not be simply called, after receiving the box, will behave like a veteran squadron after 5 years of stationing in Afghanistan. The box will be placed in a bulletproof case (I do not know where it comes from and why, but such an 18-year-old box will certainly be useful) and detonating to a safe distance. Used to always get a good leaf for good morning, and now there is nothing to risk - after all, a veteran.

It is possible that no matter how good the emissary of the heavens (as God's vengeance on this earth) we feel, it is worth starting from: "Hi, honey, how are you?" and not bang like a drum right away?


* veneer - (hunting), a doe leading a swarm of deer, a fallow deer, watching over the safety of the swarm. He chooses the direction of escape in case of danger, leads the swarm to feeding grounds. The hunting regulations prohibit shooting at the veneer (although it sometimes admits that it tempts).

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